Pregnancy can be a stressful time full of unknowns, especially for first-time mothers. If you’re a doula, knowing how to support nerves throughout the journey will help you provide the best care and form deeper relationships with your clients. Here are some tips for working with an anxious mother throughout her pregnancy.
Listen Attentively to the Mother’s Fears
Part of a doula’s job is to listen to their clients, and this is especially important when it comes to fears. No matter how unlikely a concern is to occur, mothers bring these concerns to you in confidence, seeking understanding and support. Therefore, it is your job to create a safe space that encourages open dialogue. By allowing her to express her worries, you show her that you’re committed to understanding and helping her.
Affirm and Reassure the Mother
Anxiety can be soothed with affirmation. Validate the mother’s feelings by acknowledging that her worries are normal and common among expectant parents. Use reassuring language, such as, “It’s okay to feel this way,” or “You’re not alone in this.” If you can, share examples of other mothers who have successfully navigated similar challenges. The goal is to assuage fears with confidence.
Instill Confidence in Your Expertise
On the topic of confidence, you have professional knowledge and experience that can inspire confidence in pregnant mothers. Communicate your credentials and expertise from the beginning, making sure she understands your role and what you can offer. For example, you can explain how doulas can reduce the likelihood of C-sections if that is a fear of your client’s. Provide information about labor, delivery, and newborn care in a clear, approachable manner. You might consider sharing reputable articles or resources that reinforce what you explain. Ultimately, the clearer you are about your support strategies, the more confidence your client will gain.
Maintain a Calm Presence
Anxiety in one person can breed or reinforce anxiety in another person. That’s why you should always remain calm while working, especially if your client has anxiety. When you stay composed, you naturally encourage the mother to mirror that calmness.
Anxiety and nerves are extremely common for a pregnant mother to experience, especially if it is her first time. As a doula, you can support by using these tips for working with an anxious mother. Doing so will help you build a meaningful partnership that nurtures both her confidence and your relationship throughout her pregnancy journey.
